Andy Core is an expert in Work-Life Balance, Wellbeing, and Peak Human Performance.
When I was a young college student, I had this friend with a lot of money that would buy our group all sorts of things. From name-brand clothes to limo rides and free dinners, to hotel rooms and champagne, this guy provided some velvet rope experiences. After a little over a semester, he ran out of money and disappeared.
Even though we never expected this sort of treatment, this guy couldn’t face us without a pocket full of money, and as sad as that is, many people are like him. They put their worth in what they own and how impressive they appear. In reality though, even though my group of friends and I had fun with our random, rich friend. We didn’t have much to say to him because he didn’t much to add. He was a boring person who hadn’t even begun to be genuine enough to appreciate. All he had invested in was surface level with no substance.
Trying to impress other people is generally a waste of your valuable time that could be better spent elsewhere. Your focus should be on the basics such as providing food and accommodation and most importantly on maintaining relationships with the ones you love and who love and care for you. You should also work to develop your passions and interests. If you aren’t your own best friend, then there is a problem. Like yourself- your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, without needing any bells and whistles. Your wealth lies in who you are not what you have.
You need to look at your life and discover what is most important to you because that is where you will find your true inner happiness. The only people who will judge you on the type of car you drive or the size of your house are shallow, materialistic people who will never be your true friends.
Many leadership speakers have emphasized the point that your personal achievements can be a great boost for your self esteem. However, if you only value people because of the material wealth they have amassed, you will miss out on meeting many interesting people who may enrich your life in many ways. Don’t be quick to judge others based on appearance because we can all be victims of fate and face personal hardship at some time in our lives. Everyone is on their own path, your job is to make sure that you’re the best version within your own.
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