Andy Core is an expert in Work-Life Balance, Wellbeing, and Peak Human Performance.
Yelling at someone rarely gets the results you hope for, and it will probably make you feel guilty
When you get mad or frustrated, whether it’s with a co-worker, friend, spouse, or child, it can be easy to go off the handle. Sometimes you even feel better for a minute after you yell and hurl some insults. But most often there will be a fallout after you lose your temper.
At the very least, you have probably hurt the feelings of someone you really care about, or someone you will have to continue to deal with on a daily basis. You will likely have to swallow your pride and apologize, which may or may not make the other person feel better.
It is far preferable to deal with problems in a calm and rational manner from the beginning. If you present an issue in an appropriate way, feelings may still get hurt, but not to the point that shouting and name-calling will bring. And you are far more likely to be able to work things out.
No one likes to be approached by an angry person, and chances are, if you start out the conversation with yelling, any real problems you address will be overlooked and unresolved. So approach criticism delicately. And try to have a solution in mind to suggest as well.
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