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Tips On How To Help A Depressed Friend!

Andy Core is an expert in Work-Life Balance, Wellbeing, and Peak Human Performance.

To help a depressed friend you need to be supportive and be there to listen!

To help a depressed friend you need
to be supportive and be there to listen!

Some individuals prefer opening up to their friends instead of their family or a professional. If you are friends with such a person, while the responsibility might overwhelm you, nevertheless there are things you can do to help your pal out:

Initiate the conversation. If you sense that your friend is depressed, it’s best that you strike the conversation first. Inquire about whether he or she is feeling alright and if they refuse to admit to it, simply state that you know something is wrong and that you are here to help and listen if they are willing.

You don’t need to have all the answers. Your friend will be aware of the fact that you might not have all the answers but regardless, at times just talking about what’s bothering helps a lot. Depressed individuals mostly just need someone to console them and support them through the rough patch. So be there to listen to his or her troubles and just say some kind words to lighten up their spirits.

Your friend might say or do things that might hurt you.  At times a depressed individual tends to vent out their emotions such as anger and frustration on a close one. So be ready to take a dose of the release and do not take it personally. Just listen to them and eventually they will calm down.

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If You Don’t Understand, Ask Questions

Andy Core is an expert in Work-Life Balance, Wellbeing, and Peak Human Performance.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions. How else will you learn

Don’t be afraid to ask questions.
How else will you learn

You should never feel bad about asking questions. Don’t feel like you’re being stupid or annoying, and keep asking until you understand. It’s always better to ask questions and do things right, than it is to do it wrong and have to do it over again.

Questions are an important part of conversation. The best way improve yourself and gain knowledge is to always ask questions. A thirst for knowledge and a desire to gather information are very important in your quest for success.

You can also learn more about your loved ones, and make new friends through the use of questions. Asking others about how they feel and what their interests are is not only polite, but very useful in life. It will help you understand what makes people tick, and may even make you find out more about yourself.

People who talk all the time without asking questions are destining themselves to a life without learning. If you aren’t open to expanding your mind, you will not be able to get very far in life. So ask questions, all the time, and keep your mind open to new information.

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Don’t Just Hear, Listen: It Can Benefit You

Andy Core is an expert in Work-Life Balance, Wellbeing, and Peak Human Performance.

Use your ears, and actually listen. You may learn something

Use your ears, and actually listen.
You may learn something

You will never learn anything new, if you don’t first learn how to listen. So often, when people are having a conversation, they forget to listen. It’s a bad habit to get into, when you are only crafting a response in your head while someone else talks.

Interrupting mid-sentence is an obviously rude behavior, but even if you let other people finish what they’re saying, you’re still being disrespectful if you aren’t really listening. And you may be missing out on something that could be of benefit to you.

Even if a conversation seems mundane, it may matter a lot to the other party involved, or you may still gain some valuable information. For many people, it is through talking to others that they meet their future spouse or find a career lead. A simple conversation can also lead to you finding that you don’t know someone quite as well as you thought, or you may realize something important about yourself.

Life isn’t that fulfilling without other people in it. And if you won’t do others the courtesy of listening to what they have to say, you’re actually cheating yourself in the end. So don’t just hear what you want and respond. Make the effort to really listen when someone is talking to you.

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Keep Your Criticism Constructive: You Will Feel Better

Andy Core is an expert in Work-Life Balance, Wellbeing, and Peak Human Performance.

Yelling at someone rarely gets the results you hope for, and it will probably make you feel guilty

Yelling at someone rarely gets the results you hope for,
and it will probably make you feel guilty

Yelling at someone rarely gets the results you hope for, and it will probably make you feel guilty

When you get mad or frustrated, whether it’s with a co-worker, friend, spouse, or child, it can be easy to go off the handle. Sometimes you even feel better for a minute after you yell and hurl some insults. But most often there will be a fallout after you lose your temper.

At the very least, you have probably hurt the feelings of someone you really care about, or someone you will have to continue to deal with on a daily basis. You will likely have to swallow your pride and apologize, which may or may not make the other person feel better.

It is far preferable to deal with problems in a calm and rational manner from the beginning. If you present an issue in an appropriate way, feelings may still get hurt, but not to the point that shouting and name-calling will bring. And you are far more likely to be able to work things out.

No one likes to be approached by an angry person, and chances are, if you start out the conversation with yelling, any real problems you address will be overlooked and unresolved. So approach criticism delicately. And try to have a solution in mind to suggest as well.

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Put Down the Phone and Live Life

Andy Core is an expert in Work-Life Balance, Wellbeing, and Peak Human Performance

Cell phones can make life much more convenient, but everyone can use a break from technology sometimes

Cell phones can make life
much more convenient,
but everyone can use a
break from technology sometimes

In today’s fast-paced world, people often feel like they need to be connected through some technology at all times. Look around when you’re out in public sometime, and count how many people are looking at or talking on their cell phones. It may be easier to count the people who aren’t using a phone.

Even if you have a job that requires you to carry a phone a lot of the time, it would likely do you some good to at least take a short daily break from having it on you. Oftentimes, it may do you some good to sit quietly somewhere and look around at the real world.

Have a real face-to-face conversation with someone you care about. Go to the park and play with your kids, without checking your email or Facebook on your phone every five minutes.  Sit quietly in your living room and read a chapter of a book with the phone turned off. You will probably find it very rejuvenating.

You do not need to be in contact with the rest of the technological world every minute of the day. Take time out every once in a while to just live life, without a phone in your hand or on your ear.

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