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Three Steps to Be Calm When You’re Angry

Anger-Management_o_94581Andy Core is an expert in Work-Life Balance, Wellbeing, and Peak Human Performance.

At some point, everyone gets angry. The way you handle anger, though, is what distinguishes you as a respectable or an unreasonable person.

In both the office and home setting, the key to maintaining a happy life is to form good relationships with others. If you are the type of person that blows up or holds onto anger, most people won’t want you to be in their close circle.

To successfully handle your anger, try following these three steps.

1.)    Access just how ticked off you are.

Understanding why and how much is the first step to controlling the issue with class. To treat anger with the same regard each time you have an issue will most likely lead to pent up frustration because you really haven’t addressed each incident for what it is. To respect the emotions you have you is key to working through them.

2.)    Take a moment to chill out and chew on it.

We’ve all heard the advice to count to ten, but I think you should go a step further, and if possible, and take a day. Obviously, there are times when you can’t take that much time. Working in a restaurant or dealing with a difficult coworker often requires instant reactions. In that case, take a breath and try to mentally separate yourself from the situation and your anger to respond as calmly as you can. However, if the issue is a big one and you have the option to, take a day to write down your response, talk about the issue with someone close to you, and most importantly calm down.

3.)    Realize that nothing is forever.

Even your biggest issue will fade away into a distant memory if you separate who you are from your anger and move on. Realize that your emotion about whatever is angering you will not always be there. You’re bigger than the situation and you can overcome the emotions if you learn to access, ruminate and separate. It’s okay to be upset, but don’t let it control you or ruin your day. Just like anything else, we make the choice to be positive or negative. Learn to see the good stuff.

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Remain Calm During Conflict: Never lose Your temper

Losing your cool will only make matters worse

Losing your cool will only make matters worse

Andy Core is an expert in Work-Life Balance, Wellbeing, and Peak Human Performance.

Everybody gets angry at some time. Sometimes when you lose your temper it may feel good to shout and insult those you are angry with. However, such a reaction will always have consequences that you may not have intended especially after you have calmed down.

Shouting or making disparaging comments at someone will only hurt their feelings and this is especially problematic when you are dealing with co-workers or loved-ones. In such cases you will damage your relationships and you will end up being the one who has to apologize and do all the work to repair the relationship. A convention speaker can teach you how to remain calm.

When dealing with conflict, you need to learn to remain calm and sensible at all times. Even if you have good reason to be angry, you should remain calm and state your case with empathy. In that way the person who has wronged you will not feel like they are being attacked and will be more sympathetic to your point of view when trying to resolve the matter.

Losing your temper is never a good way to dealt with conflict and more often than not only worsens the situation. It is better to stay calm and come up with a solution that benefits all parties and not just your ego. Take some advice from a convention speaker on how to deal with conflict.

 

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