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Live Honestly, Live Better | Practical Weekly Advice by Andy Core

If there was one piece of advice I could give everyone it would be to live honestly.

This concept works on multiple levels.

The first is in regards to yourself. 

Self improvement takes honest reflection. You won’t make significant progress if you gloss over your problems or if you are overly critical. Learn to see yourself in a positive, humble light, and growth will occur.

This requires you to frequently take stock of your behavior, your life and your emotions. Don’t judge yourself too harshly, but do learn to prune your thought patterns and behavior actively. To do this, incorporate journaling, meditation, long walks and yoga into your daily habits. This will give you time to mull over your thoughts and behaviors and then therefore make better choices in the future.

The second is in regards to others.

Taking this a step further, be yourself. Don’t try to conform to how you think other people want to see you. The more genuine you are, the more likely you’ll be to find others who accept you for you. This is obviously a tough thing to accomplish, but once you realize that everyone else is looking for the same acceptance you’re searching for, you’ll realize that we’re all on the same level. Those who judge are insecure and need love. Those who don’t judge will accept and nurture you into the person you should be. Seek these people out and try to be one of them. This freedom will decrease the self-concious pressure we all feel, therefore making you a happier person.

The third is in regards to society in general. 

Dishonestly will make you have anxiety and shame, both of which are poisonous emotions to deal with. Dishonesty will also make others dislike you and feel hurt or offended. Therefore, to be the best member of your community, act in such a way that values yourself and your relationship with others. Refuse to lie. I’m not suggesting that you behave with no filter and say whatever you want to say. Few people actually like Howard Stern. What I am suggesting is to live with a sense of integrity that takes responsibility for your actions and words.

The fourth is in regards to the world at large. 

This might be a stretch for some, but once you’ve accepted yourself and found a community of people who accept you, the next logical step is to incorporate a conscious behavior regarding nature. This means that other creatures, both plant and animal, deserve the same respect you give to yourself and your community. This might be as simple as reducing, reusing and recycling, or it might be as active as joining a group of people who are calling for the protection of the environment. Get involved with ways of thinking that call you to a better lifestyle, and make others do the same.

If you learn to live honestly on all of these levels, you’ll have found a real sense of peace and purpose. Your conscious, free behavior will prevent guilt and anxiety from controlling your perspective, and your humble sense of self will allow others to be who they are, thus providing room for not understanding their behavior, yet accepting them anyways.

I’m not the first to come up with this perspective. Many religions uphold the same goal. Be it the golden rule, the Noble Eightfold Path or the way of Tao. All of these teach how to live honestly within your community in such a way that encourages you to find peace and happiness. No matter your religion, these sources can help you find your own truth, live honestly and become your best, happiest self.

 

Creating a Daily Vacation

mister-rogersIt’s January, and the holidays are officially over. For many, the next months will be dedicated to work without the hope of a vacation and may be the hardest part of the year to enjoy. To stay motivated, some may focus on when the next getaway is, but it’s more beneficial to develop a daily habit of renewal.

In the article, “Recovery, Work Engagement, and Proactive Behavior: A New Look at the Interface Between Nonwork and Work,” the study found that if you practice recovery rituals on a daily basis, your work engagement and productivity levels will increase. Therefore to maintain positive motivation both at work and home, we must create a mini vacation on a daily basis. Forming this habit is a simple exercise that requires three easy steps.

1.)    Evaluate

Recovery will be different for each person, but the first step is to recognize your current pattern when you leave work. Do you have a coming home ritual that allows you to unplug? Do you mentally leave work, or do you instead stay connected to technology and the stress of your job? Do you exercise or plop on the couch with your dinner and remote in hand? Can you talk to those who matter in your life,  or are you distracted and irritable?

2.)    Envision

After you’ve contemplated what your day looks like now, decide what needs to change. One important step is to “bookend” your day. Some call this the Mr. Rogers method because as we all remember, every time he entered his doorway, he put on his cardigan and slippers. Take this a step further, and instead of putting on your old man apparel, put on tennis shoes and go exercise. Yoga is also a great way to engage in recovery because it melds fitness with centering yourself in the present moment while it purges out your stress through breathing. Think of exercise as a stress filtering tool rather than a chore, and remember that it doesn’t have to be intense, it just has to be consistent.

3.)    Engage

After you’ve relieved your stress, then you can enjoy those around you who make your life what it is. Whether it’s your spouse, your child, your dog or your journal, truly participate. I often am greeted by daughters inviting me to dance when I enter the house. This ritual releases me from work and allows me to appreciate my family, my home and my life.

Also, eat your evening meal with intention. I know that every night can’t be a gourmet experience, but you can do better than fast food from a chain restaurant or your microwave every night. The experience of cooking is good for community building, health and happiness, and try sitting at the table rather than your couch. Doing so will support communication much more deeply, and connecting to your food will help you eat the proper amount and be satisfied.

Practicing the habit of gratitude will also increase your motivation. This is because being thankful for the bright spots in your day make it worthwhile. If you take time to reflect and appreciate, your gratitude will reframe your mindset into a positive outlook. Also, rather than worrying about work or dreading going in the next day, contemplate what you actually enjoy about your job. Choose something that you’re thankful for and say it audibly. Attitude is by far the most important factor in maintaining happiness.

In short, figure out what habits make you feel mentally at ease and positive. If you get home and do things that make you feel grateful for the life you’re living, you’ll more motivated and energized on a daily basis. These mini vacations are necessary to recharge your perspective and prepare you for work the next day.

So again, recognize your current status, decide what small habits you can change in your day to develop a pattern of recovery, and practice those changes. Doing so will change your mindset and give you a better sense of balance in both work and life.

 

 

 

Society is a Union— People Must Work Together

Andy Core is an expert in Work-Life Balance, Wellbeing, and Peak Human Performance.

Various people must work together to form a successful society

Various people must work together to
form a successful society

In order to be a productive member of society, you must be willing to unite with other members of your community. Part of being a successful person, is being able to work well on your own, and to work well with others.

Even if you consider yourself to be an independent person, and even if you are a loner who prefers to be on your own, you must learn to get along with others, or you will never be a productive member within your society. Working together is a key to great things.

There is strength in unity, and if you arwilling to join forces with your fellow citizens, despite their differences from yourself, your union can accomplish more than you each could do individually. If you truly want to be a force to be reckoned with, you must not be unwilling to cooperate.

As a union, men and women can do great things. In order for a society to function and thrive, the people within that society must work together. Common values of acceptance and pride in your community, along with a desire to succeed, are all keys in forming a happy and safe place to live.

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