Andy Core is an expert in Work-Life Balance, Wellbeing, and Peak Human Performance.
You know who I’m talking about. That guy who grumbles in line behind you. That woman who complains about every aspect of her day and doesn’t care to know what’s going on in your’s. That boss who only has a meeting if there is bad news or that coworker who acts like he’s the most stressed out person alive. There are days in all our lives where it is easy to be negative. There are also people in our lives who are always negative. These people choose to be in a bad mood on a daily basis and they can’t seem to get out of this mindset.
When you can’t get away from a negative person in your life, you have to figure out the best way to deal with them. Here are a five tips.
1.) Practice Empathy
When those people we know are on one of their rants or they won’t stop seeing things in a negative light, realize that you don’t know what else they might be going through and you don’t know what struggles they’re dealing with. Once we remember that our perception is not the complete story, we might be a bit easier on those negative people.
2.) Learn to Laugh it Off
Yeah, so in so may be getting on your nerves, but it could very well be your issue as much as it is his. So instead of dwelling on that person who is irritating you, it’s better to see the entire situation as comical rather than controversial.
Along these same lines, perhaps Negative Nancy needs someone to vent to for a second. I’m not suggesting you waste a lot of time, but giving said person a few moments as a friend may go a long way in the grand scheme of things.
4.) Be a positive influence
In life, the only factor you have any sort of control over, is the way that you react. Therefore, all you can really do to help is be a positive light. So smile, listen, be empathetic and then try to put a positive spin on it. Maybe it will help, maybe it won’t, but showing others how to think positively is the best way to help them change. Lead by example, not by explanation.
5.) Block Them Out
In the end, the negativity of people might be too much to deal with for a long stretch of time, and if their attitudes are getting to you, then get away from their attitudes. Close your door, put in some headphones or simply tell them that you have work to focus on, and would they be so kind as to talk to you in a bit. Yes, patience is important, but in the end, you have to do what is right for you.
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