At some point, everyone gets angry. The way you handle anger, though, is what distinguishes you as a respectable or an unreasonable person.
In both the office and home setting, the key to maintaining a happy life is to form good relationships with others. If you are the type of person that blows up or holds onto anger, most people won’t want you to be in their close circle.
To successfully handle your anger, try following these three steps.
1.) Access just how ticked off you are.
Understanding why and how much is the first step to controlling the issue with class. To treat anger with the same regard each time you have an issue will most likely lead to pent up frustration because you really haven’t addressed each incident for what it is. To respect the emotions you have you is key to working through them.
2.) Take a moment to chill out and chew on it.
We’ve all heard the advice to count to ten, but I think you should go a step further, and if possible, and take a day. Obviously, there are times when you can’t take that much time. Working in a restaurant or dealing with a difficult coworker often requires instant reactions. In that case, take a breath and try to mentally separate yourself from the situation and your anger to respond as calmly as you can. However, if the issue is a big one and you have the option to, take a day to write down your response, talk about the issue with someone close to you, and most importantly calm down.
3.) Realize that nothing is forever.
Even your biggest issue will fade away into a distant memory if you separate who you are from your anger and move on. Realize that your emotion about whatever is angering you will not always be there. You’re bigger than the situation and you can overcome the emotions if you learn to access, ruminate and separate. It’s okay to be upset, but don’t let it control you or ruin your day. Just like anything else, we make the choice to be positive or negative. Learn to see the good stuff.
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